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R.A.’s Twelfth TraditionRA
Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. RA
    This is the next in a series of articles about R.A.'s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. Even though A.A. has granted us permission to adapt the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, Recoveries Anonymous is a unique Fellowship with a distinctive way of looking at and working the Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions. R.A.'s experience is that, when someone thoroughly follows the pioneers' "clear-cut directions," they will duplicate the pioneers' results. They will find the same recovery that the pioneers found.RA
    In R.A., we recognize the full meaning of "anonymity." It is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions. It is a constant reminder that we need to put the principles of our program ahead of any desire we may have for personal recognition. It is how we show true respect for ourselves, as well as for those who come to us seeking help. Most important, it is how we, both as a Fellowship and as individuals, express our gratitude to our loving Creator.RA
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    The name of our fellowship is Recoveries Anonymous. This promises everyone who comes to us that we will keep his or her identity confidential. It also assures newcomers that they have the option of joining us using an assumed name. In addition, we reassure our members that they do not have to share the details of their lives, or the exact nature of their problems and behaviors, with anyone. We pledge to maintain the anonymity of each member for as long as they wish.RA
    Within R.A., everyone has a right to expect that anything they share in confidence will remain private. An R.A. member should never share anything that another R.A. member has asked them to keep confidential. However, someone can give their permission for something they did or said to be discussed. In R.A., everyone is responsible for maintaining their own anonymity, as well as that of every R.A. member that they share with. This includes R.A.'s Sponsors. RA
    However, we need to realize that many people who attend R.A. meetings are there because they are spiritually sick. They may not respect other members' privacy. They may not keep what they hear to themselves. Therefore, at R.A. meetings, we ask everyone to limit what they share. We suggest that they only talk about their experience with, and their understanding of, the spiritual solution that is in R.A.'s Suggested Literature. We recommend that R.A. members not discuss their problems, behaviors, or the details of their lives at R.A. meetings. We suggest that they talk about these topics in private with their R.A. Sponsors or with other R.A. members they trust. RA
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LquoteThe Twelfth Tradition tells us that we need to keep information about us, and about other R.A. members, private.Rquote
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    The Eleventh and Twelfth Traditions both discuss anonymity. In R.A., we have found that it is not easy to see the difference. It is not clear that each tradition discusses a different aspect of anonymity. The Eleventh Tradition says that we should not use our full names at the public level of press, radio, and films. The Twelfth Tradition tells us that we need to keep information about us, and about other R.A. members, private.RA
    R.A. is a unique fellowship. We have a distinct way of looking at the Twelfth Tradition. We believe that it makes the intent of the Twelfth Tradition easy to see. All we do is mentally change one word. We simply think of the Twelfth Tradition as saying, "Confidentiality is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities." RA
    This is a preview of the chapter about the Twelfth Tradition that will be in "R.A.'s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Revealed" which will be published in the coming year.RA
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The Twelfth TraditionRA
There are several misunderstandings about the Twelfth Tradition. Many people who come to R.A. have been in other programs. They do not know that there are two versions of the Twelfth Tradition. They are usually only familiar with the short form of this tradition. They often do not know that there is also a long form of this tradition. RA
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    These people do not know that this long form continues to be in force. It is still printed in the current Big Book and in A.A.'s 12&12. In R.A., we believe that it is important to understand the long form of the Twelfth Tradition.RA
    The original, long form of the Twelfth Tradition was published in the April 1946 issue of A.A.'s magazine, The Grapevine. It says, "We of Alcoholics Anonymous believe that the principle of Anonymity has an immense spiritual significance. It reminds us that we are to place principles before personalities; that we are actually to practice a genuine humility. This to the end that our great blessings may never spoil us; that we shall forever live in thankful contemplation of Him Who presides over us all."RA
    R.A. has graciously been granted permission by A.A. to adapt the Twelve Traditions. In R.A., we completely embrace the long form of the Twelfth Tradition.RA
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    There is another misunderstanding about the Twelfth Tradition. It is common among those who have been in other programs. When they come to R.A., they are often confused. This happens because the Eleventh Tradition also refers to anonymity. Those who are new to R.A. do not realize that the focus of the Eleventh Tradition is very different from the focus of the Twelfth Tradition. RA
    The Eleventh Tradition has to do with our full names. We are not to use them at the level of press, radio, films, television, and other public media of communication. The Twelfth Tradition has to do with "confidentiality." It makes it clear that someone's membership in R.A., and what they share with us in confidence, should be kept private. It has nothing to do with the use of someone's full name in the press. RA
    In R.A., we have a suggestion. It clarifies the intent of the Twelfth Tradition. We simply change one word. We think of it as saying, "Confidentiality is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."RA
    This is a preview of the chapter about the Twelfth Tradition that will be in "R.A.'s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Revealed" which will be published in the coming year.RA
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The Miracles Revealed:
R.A.’s Journal of Recovery
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The page to the right is from R.A.'s second book, "The Miracles Revealed: R.A.'s Journal Of Recovery." This book will give even the most experienced person a fresh look at the program. You can read it like a daily journal, or you can read it straight through. R.A.'s Journal will help everyone come to a deeper understanding of our program of recovery. If you enjoy this sample, please visit R.A.'s web site and download a copy of "The Miracles Revealed: R.A.'s Journal of Recovery."RA
A Story of RecoveryRA
Our experience is that the stories in the original Multilith Big Book were written to validate the pioneers' "clear-cut directions" for working the Twelve Steps. To help your recovery, we encourage you to visit R.A.'s web site and get "The Original Way Out Revealed: R.A.'s Annotated Multilith Big Book" and read all of these original stories. The following passage is from the story "A DIFFERENT SLANT." In R.A.'s Annotated Multilith Big Book, in the personal story section, on page PS33 it says:RA
RA"I probably have one of the shortest stories in this whole volume and it is short because there is one point I wish to get over to an occasional man who may be in my position.RA
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"Partner in one of this country's nationally known concerns, happily married with fine children, sufficient income to indulge my whims and future security from the financial standpoint should paint a picture in which there would be no possibility of a man becoming an alcoholic from the psychological standpoint. I had nothing to escape from and I am known as a conservative, sound business man.RA
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RA"I had missed going to my office several times while I tapered off and brought myself to sobriety. This time, though, I found I could not taper off, I could not stop and I had to be hospitalized. That was the greatest shock I ever had to my pride. Such a blow that I made the firm resolve to never again taste as much as one glass of beer. Careful thought and analysis went into that decision.RA
RA"The doctor at this hospital told me vaguely of the work of a group of men who called themselves Alcoholics Anonymous and asked if I wanted one of them to call upon me. I knew I needed no outside help, but in order to be polite to the doctor and hoping he would forget it, I assented.RA
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leaving the hospital the second time, I was pounding at his door, willing to do anything to conquer the vicious thing that had conquered me.
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RA"I was embarrassed when a chap called at my house one evening and told me about himself. He quickly sensed my slight resentment and made it plain to me that none of the crowd were missionaries, nor did they feel it their duty to try to help anyone who did not want help. I think I closed the talk by saying I was glad I was not an alcoholic and sorry he had been bothered by me.RA
RA"Within sixty days, after leaving the hospital the second time, I was pounding at his door, willing to do anything to conquer the vicious thing that had conquered me.RA
RA"The point I hope I have made is — even a man with everything from the material standpoint, a man with tremendous pride and the will power to function in all ordinary circumstances can become an alcoholic and find himself as hopeless and helpless as the man who has a multitude of worries and troubles."
 
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A Newcomer AsksRA
Q"I have been an R.A. Primary Sponsor for many years. One of the people I am working with has been talking to a newcomer. In a conversation, this newcomer mentioned that they were very unhappy at their job. They said that everyone at their workplace treated them terribly. The person I am working with off-handedly said that they might want to look for another job. The newcomer misunderstood this suggestion. They thought they were being told what to do. Now, this newcomer says that they were persuaded to quit their job. This has resulted in a series of e-mails between the newcomer and person I am working with as well as others in R.A. that they have been in contact with. The newcomer has also shared these e-mails with an online group of over one hundred people. The person I am working with is very concerned because their full name has been used. Their anonymity has been repeatedly breached. Everyone I talk to is also worried about R.A.'s reputation on social media. Can you please address these concerns?"RA
QThank you for contacting Recoveries Anonymous! Yes, we can comment on each of these issues. First, it is important to remember that most people come to R.A. after they have been in other programs. They often think of a sponsor as someone who has authority over them. This is not the case in R.A. We try to make it clear that an R.A. Sponsor is not a counselor or a therapist. We also try to let newcomers know that an R.A. Sponsor is not supposed to promote their own ideas. In R.A., we discourage an R.A. Sponsor from giving an R.A. newcomer personal advice on any topic. RA
RAAn R.A. Sponsor may answer an R.A. newcomer's questions. However, R.A. suggests that they do this by directing the newcomer to passages from R.A.'s Suggested Literature. An R.A. Sponsor's goal is to help each R.A. newcomer work all Twelve Steps by following the pioneers' original "clear-cut directions." These directions are now in R.A.'s Multilith Big Book. R.A. has found that, as the result of doing this, the newcomer will have a spiritual experience. They will develop a conscious contact with their loving Creator. Then, they will turn to God for direction and guidance in all things. RA
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RASecond, in R.A., we have found that working with others insures our own recovery. It is also essential if we want to stay recovered. However, when a newcomer comes to R.A., he or she is usually spiritually sick. Therefore, when first making contact with a newcomer, we suggest that R.A. Sponsors protect their anonymity. RA
RAR.A. suggests that R.A. Sponsors not use e-mail accounts that contain their full names. Alternative e-mail accounts can easily be set up. R.A. also suggests that R.A. Sponsors not use their first and last names when they create social media accounts. In addition, R.A. recommends that their online profiles not include a picture or give specific details of their location or life. Furthermore, R.A. suggests that R.A. Sponsors use one of the many services that provide free phone numbers. These numbers can forward a call to an R.A. Sponsor's main number. RA
RAThird, you and others are concerned because "an online group of over one hundred people" has seen negative posts about Recoveries Anonymous. There is an old cliché. It says, "There is no such thing as bad publicity." This means that over one hundred people who might never have heard of R.A. before now know we exist. RA
RAUninformed and misinformed people have been sharing negative things about the program since its earliest days. There was a story in the Second and Third Editions of the Big Book. This story is called "From Farm to City." On page 266, in the first full paragraph, a woman shares that she was drinking and thinking about joining the program. She writes, "There was a man watching, and I turned to him and said, with a defiant air I carried with me all the time, 'If I don't quit this I'm going to have to join that alcoholic business they're talking about.' He said, 'Sister, if you think you're a screwball now, all you have to do is join up with that. I'll get you the password, and I can find out where they meet because I know a guy that belongs. But they are the craziest bunch! They roll on the floor and holler, and pull their hair.' 'Well, I'm nuts enough now,' I said to him." RA
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RAIn R.A., we do not know of any meetings that required someone to have a password to be admitted. We have never heard of meetings where people rolled on the floor while hollering and pulling their hair. This misinformation did delay this woman's entry into the program. However, she eventually joined. She worked the Twelve Steps, recovered, and wrote this story. R.A.'s experience is that, once people hear about R.A., they will investigate it. They will be attracted by R.A.'s message of hope, sanity, and recovery. Then, they may try R.A. for themselves. After they fully work all Twelve Steps in R.A., they will recover. RA
RAIn R.A., we try to make it clear that an R.A. Sponsor's role is simply to guide an R.A. newcomer through the Twelve Steps. R.A. also recommends that R.A. Sponsors maintain their anonymity when they first contact a newcomer. R.A.'s experience is that our program will survive any criticism it may receive. Many thousands of people can now testify that they have recovered by God's grace. They can share that this has happened to them as the result of their working R.A.'s Twelve Step program of recovery. RA
    This is a preview of the chapter about the Twelfth Tradition that will be in "R.A.'s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Revealed" which will be published in the coming year.
 
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R.A.’s “How To Begin…” GuidesRA
To find out more about our Twelve Step Fellowship, and how you can get started working the Twelve Steps of our Solution Focused Program of Recovery, we suggest that you visit our web site and Download R.A.'s "How To Begin…" guides. This includes R.A.'s Newcomer Guide, "How To Begin Living In The Solution."

R.A.’s Solution Focused BooksRA
Move up to the next step in your search for recovery by downloading and reading the PDF versions of R.A.'s Solution Focused Books. We do not charge for the PDF versions of our books. Instead, we give the passwords needed to open our books to thank those who support our efforts to help others. You can show your support by making a small, one time, tax-free contribution to R.A., or, if you truly cannot afford to make a contribution at this time, by filling out our Feedback Form. RA
    If you are reading this, you have probably spent a lot of time and energy trying things that did not work out the way you hoped they would. Doesn't it make sense to invest a little more time and energy in this time-proven method of finding the recovery you've been seeking? As the pioneers promise in the Multilith Big Book: ''It works—it really does. Try it.''

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If R.A. has helped you, please consider making a contribution in support of our efforts to help others.

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